Things unravel, they fall apart, and many times don’t go the way we planned. The truth is, it’s inevitable and no matter how hard we try to get around the bad times, they always come. When they do, our immediate response is to want to fix them. We analyze, diagnose, question and wonder how we can make our wrongs right. We want to talk it out so hopefully we can work it out.I have come to realize though, that when we try so hard at turning around those unpleasant situations they only seem to get worse. So what do we do?
My suggestion isn’t to ignore everything entirely, but maybe just keep it simple. If you’ve done something wrong apologize, no ifs or buts, just “I’m sorry”. If someone has wronged you, forgive them and move on. All the questions of why and how we want answered so badly become the sacrifice we make, because what do they matter anyway?
As the details blur and time passes away, we become okay again. I have found that some of the most complicated things we deal with can become so easy this way. It’s just as simple as that.