Have you ever found yourself just so sick and tired of being sick and tired? I think it’s something we all experience at some point in our lives. It’s that feeling we wish would just go away but seems to linger in the hallways of our mind for ages.
Drama has a way of doing just that, sucking us in and then spitting us out. We are left battered and torn by the battle of the fight. Many times we make it through stronger but more often we are left scarred by the experience. The lasting effects we secretly wear, hidden until we are forced to deal with them in another relevance. It’s the mistrust, the fear and, of course, the insecurities that plague us in facing the next relationship.
While we are so prone to always want to respond to drama, I have found that the fight solely comes at your discretion. No matter how angry, upset, or willing the other person is to engage in the conflict, it’s all in your hands. There can be NO fight if you choose not to participate. When you choose not to respond, the other person is totally disarmed, left to figure it out by themselves. If they continue, their campaign of bitterness becomes no longer a fight, but rather an attack.
There are always going to be people that are going to want to put you through it, for them fighting seems like the only way they know to deal with their issues. However, if you choose to withdraw your sword, you are left with a better chance at healing the hurts you’ve already experienced. Walking away can so often be perceived as being weak, but to me it’s only the strongest of people that can let go and move on.
So, so true, Rachel.
you’ve done it again…. greatness.
Yes Amen Thank you!
Very Awesome word!
Love it, and so true!
Amen, such an inspiration to me!!!
So true…so hard to do, but with God’s grace, we can! Thank you for this encouraging
observation!
A true word spoken!!
I often think about certain situations that included drama in life that I chose to walk away from, and what might have happened if I had stuck it out. I can’t name a single case where I would have been better off choosing to continue rather than step away in those cases where I did. What’s even greater is it seems that many times we step right into the hands of God when we turn away from bitterness and defiance in a dramatic situation. God will allow us to walk away in grace and seek wisdom to combat the spirit of confusion that surrounds drama. I can take time to purge through what’s going on, allow myself to forgive, and decide whether or not the situation even needs to be dealt with. When you take control of drama and give it to God, it gives Him the freedom to perform a miracle in cases where we could never deal with it in the natural. Wonderful topic!
I only read this one journal entry & I love your blog so far already!! The 3 latest posts seem so for me. I am a married woman & marriage is a daily struggle & lesson in love, forgiveness, & letting go of all bitterness, hate & anger. God bless you & thanks again! I look forward to reading more of your blog entries.
Great advice! My teen age daughter uses profanity to pull me into the fight! I will remember your words and do better next time!
God Bless
What did Jesus say about this topic. We are to love thy enemy and turn the other cheek right?Its so hard to do esspecially when you confied a secret within thy self to a “fake” friend and thus ruins your reputation because of gossip.
So turn the other cheek because when you do that and let God take care of it, then woe to the poeple who condem because vengence is the Lords, and if you curse a child of GOD, then you curse yourself, as well as if you Bless a child of GOD then blessings will follow. Peace
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I love it Rachel. You are doing an elegant job! Keep up the great work! It will pay off!
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When you talked about Drama and how you react. You are so right about it. I believe it’s a choice and a lot to do with self control. It’s like if you were allergic to “drama” would you get in it? If you did, don’t you believe it would cause an allergic “reaction”….
Thank you for posting this!
Well put & wrote. How r ways u avoid drama ?
Drama.lol. I thought acting as Santa Claus was cool, even though the elves were a bit irritating when they started to slack of. But that’s not the drama your talking about. I kinda agree, that it is better to walk away from a matter that goes nowhere. There are types of drama that have to be dealt with and end it, before it grows worse or goes in limbo. In relationships, drama is inevitable, but it takes true wisdom to act upon a solution to end the problem. It can be as easy as saying, “I love you and please forgive me(I forgive you)” or if it’s a continuing problem, then seek after God for a solution to the problem. In my opinion some dramas can be avoided.
I agree with you, Rachel. It is hard for a person not to defend himself when he is accused especially if he is not guilty. I believe all drama and fighting comes due to basically pride because it is written in the word, only by pride comes contention.
Only a person who is confident with who he is, can step away from a fight. This confidence must be in Christ. If a person is confident with who he is in Christ then nothing can affect him.
Thank you Rachel for providing a space for expressing our views.
Very true, we have to be doers of Gods words. He that is us is greater than he that is the world.
Amen! and Amen! Well spoken.
Amen! and Amen! Well spoken
That’s right honey, so true!!! Keep going! 🙂
rachel please pray for me i have not had a holiday for eleven years my mom is 88 dad is 87 and still working,rachel today i asked dad to order the stock we need dad told me he is not ordering stock i write the stock in the order book he does not order what our shop needs i set up the webstore to help support mom and dad in there old age everything i make i give to mom and dad they still come with there acquistions when ever they can not get there own way rachel i am at the end of my rope with mom and dad ( i will not walk away from them they need me more than anything now) rachel please pray that jesus would send more internet orders so i can support mom and dad i do not know how long i can take there acquisations any more please pray that jesus give me supernatual strength to cope (hope is the rope that allows us to cope)
i have been to bible college i know the bible backwards i also made in mp3 the new testament audio bible i need jesus supernatual strength in my heart (ps there is 18 inches between our heads and our hearts) the 18 inch drop….
ian and whiskers ( my cat)
Definitely blessed by reading this! I couldn’t agree more, and can testify that walking away only makes you stronger…despite how others may look at it. In the end, you’re the one that has to go through the consequences. So be wise in your decions!
“Drama has a way of doing just that, sucking us in and then spitting us out” – classic!!!
Good stuff Rachel— but I think life is unpredictable and that’s how we should live it..
Thanks and God bless, coz you’re doing a great job.